Saying "Yes" Mindfully

authentically you other Apr 23, 2024

Saying "yes" can be a bit of a habit sometimes, especially when I want to be helpful or accommodating. It's sometimes easy to get caught up in wanting to please others or avoid any discomfort that might come with saying “no," but there’s a distinction between being genuinely nice and people-pleasing. While doing nice things can come from a place of kindness and generosity, people-pleasing often stems from fear of rejection or disapproval. If you find yourself saying "yes" because you're afraid of being disliked or rejected, it's a sign of people-pleasing behavior. Research from the American Psychiatric Association says that over‐commitment, even in situations where you feel there are few options can lead to less self‐care and a decline in your own productivity. Let’s look at how to prioritize what brings you joy and fulfillment, and let your decisions reflect your authentic self when you say “yes.”

  1.  Know Yourself: Take time to understand what makes you feel happy and comfortable. Saying "yes" to things that align with your values and interests helps you stay true to who you are.
  2.  Set Boundaries and Stay Safe: It's okay to say "no" when something doesn't feel right or goes against what you believe in. Setting boundaries protects your well-being and prevents you from feeling overwhelmed or stressed. Always prioritize your safety and health as you trust your instincts and speak up if you feel uneasy.
  3.  Balance Growth and Self-Care: Finding a balance between trying new things and taking care of yourself is key. Say "yes" to opportunities that inspire you, but don't be afraid to say "no" when you need time to recharge and reflect.


Saying "yes" with purpose leads to growth and happiness. Take time to understand your needs and boundaries, making thoughtful decisions that empower you to navigate life confidently while staying aligned with your values. Never forget that it's okay to prioritize your well-being and make choices that align with who you are—just be sure to take time to know that person. Consider your own needs and boundaries before agreeing to something and learn to make thoughtful decisions that will help you feel more confident and in control in different situations.

Are you ready to take control of your choices and prioritize what truly matters to you? Join me in a specific one-day challenge to say "yes" with intention and focus on your well-being. Here's your personalized challenge:

  • Morning Reflection (10 minutes): Take a few minutes to reflect on what brings you joy and fulfillment. Write down three values or interests that matter most to you.
  • Set Boundaries (Throughout the Day): Practice saying "no" to one request or activity that doesn't align with your values or feels overwhelming. Notice how this empowers you to prioritize your well-being.
  • Stay Safe (All Day): Prioritize your safety and health in every decision you make today. Say "yes" only to situations that make you feel safe and comfortable.
  • Balance Growth and Self-Care (Evening): Say "yes" to trying something new that inspires you or promotes personal growth. Balance this with dedicated time for self-care and relaxation in the evening.
  • Reflection (End of Day): Reflect on your experiences throughout the day. Notice any shifts in your decision-making and how intentional choices have impacted your well-being.

Say “yes” on your terms and when you want to say “yes,” as you make intentional choices that align with your happiness and values!

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